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Writing a Letter to Yourself as a Form of Self Care

Friday, May 28th, 2021

Writing a Letter to Yourself as a Form of Self Care

Have you ever left something unsaid or lost an opportunity to tell someone how you really felt? Or maybe it was it too difficult to tell someone how you really felt. We’ve all been there.

A powerful tool that can help ease your pent-up anger, pain, or frustration is simply letter writing. You can write a letter that you never send, rip into shreds, or even burn after writing it. Therapeutic letter writing can be helpful for oh so many reasons.

The process of writing is quite different from thinking or talking. It’s a slower process, that allows you to engage your emotions as you think through and helps you bring together your thoughts. It’s especially cathartic because it allows you to share without any inhibitions, how you truly feel about someone or a situation.

For example, writing a letter to your ex-partner who might have hurt you, you might write: You ended our relationship in the worst way possible. How could you just drop out of my life, with no explanation, leaving me to guess what went wrong? I know that I deserved better than that, so what you did is a reflection of you, and your cowardice, not a reflection of me.  I am happier and better off without you.”

It’s alright to get angry in your letters – be as angry as you can, as this might allow you to get the thoughts out of your head and to take some action with them. If you’re feeling calm and centered enough, you can write a response to your letters that soothes you, for example. “I am so sorry that I let you down, I just did not have the courage to be honest with you, you know I have never been good at communicating. You did deserve better. I hope you can forgive me.”

Some simple rules to follow if you decide to use this powerful healing tool:

  1. Find a quiet space to do your writing.
  2. Make sure your letters are kept in a private place, or destroy them in a safe manner after writing them.
  3. Make sure you give yourself time to calm and recentre yourself after letter writing. One way to do this is by spending a few minutes doing some deep breathing, for example, inhale for 4 and exhale for 4.

You may need to write several letters to the same person or around the same situation as your thoughts unfold and as your healing process goes on, which is a sign that you are making progress.

To help you work through difficult emotions, Hasu has many qualified and compassionate therapists who are able to offer a variety of solutions via video, phone and even text therapy.

Cristina Lamonica

Cristina Lamonica, MSW, RSW

Therapist at Hasu eCounselling

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